The the inner workings of Topping as a Trans woman. It’s a good idea, then, that topping could be fraught aided by the anxiety to do harm.
During my time for a university campus, a place that is often tricky navigate permission and intimate attack, we saw the way in which intercourse ended up being cleaned of the necessarily gluey nuances, and instead paid down to mutually exclusive dualisms of cis attacker and cis victim. In new-student orientations, the testimonies sent to quivering first-years were often from heterosexual white females. The teachers invoked tales of rape by which victims begged their assaulters into the “active, ” or top, roles to get rid of penetrating them. I happened to be implicitly instructed that the penetrated is definitely in the verge to be violated.
It’s a good idea, then, that topping is fraught with all the anxiety of accomplishing damage. Octavia said that’s another right part of why she actually is hesitant about topping cis females. In those moments, she worries, “imagine if my topping is obviously associated with energy characteristics? Let’s say there will be something incorrect using what i will be doing? ” Her fear is due to the possibility of violating her partners—and that, she would be implicitly positioned as a man by way of the dominant rape narrative that dictates only penetrative sex to be rape, and only men hurt women if she were to unwittingly violate a cis woman.
Bottoming and topping are bound up in relations of power. That’s why dominant and roles that are submissive that are explicitly focused on deliberate exchanges of energy, are often conflated with topping and bottoming, correspondingly. Continue reading